Let's talk marriage....

In my mind people give up on marriage to easily. Back in the old days it was taboo to get a divorce. Whilst I, a modern women, find this weird I do understand it to an extent. I do feel that in modern times people are giving bullshit excuses as to the reason for divorcing. This is not OK. The whole "I'm divorcing because of irreconcilable differences" is so lame. I feel that a divorce should only be granted if adultery is involved or there was domestic violence. A vague excuse, in my books, just doesn't cut. I know what your all thinking. How can you call yourself a modern women when some of your views are archaic? That's easy to answer. Unlike our ancestors I'm willing to listen to the flip side of the coin. I'm determined to make something of myself whilst keeping my traditional place within my home. I'm married so I can understand how hard marriage can be. It's funny how people automatically assume that your going to get a divorce all because you've had an argument. It is not all roses and sunshine. It takes hard work and effort to make a marriage work successfully. Marriage fundamentally is about working as a team. You have to be willing to compromise. I don't think people are often willing to do that. In the media we get dictated to about what it means to be a modern women. For many women I feel that this is the reason for the decline in people getting married at a young age. Women are often the target of these articles which is why I feel more and more of them are declining marriage proposals. The media definitely have a big affect on people. Those who have a traditional marriage get branded as weird by the media. I feel that this is part of the reason why people have lost their way. It's time to stop listening to crappy marriage advice from the crappy media and start to make up your own mind. I recently found out that many of the people giving these marriage advice are either bitter and divorced or never been married. In this sense I would only take advice from someone who is married. The bias in these articles is very apparent and should not be taken. I didn't listen to them and now I've been happily married for nearly 2 years. I love my husband and no matter how many arguments we have I will NEVER divorce him. I know that in the end he's got my back as I have his. I choose to be in a traditional relationship with him. That's what works for us. Neither of us are perfect but what makes us stand out is that we are prepared to do what it takes to stay together. I've heard a lot of people say that we are a weird couple. I didn't understand for awhile why people said this until a little while ago. It's because they haven't seen a traditional marriage in a long time. I'm not talking the modern sense of traditional - I'm talking about the traditional marriage that our grandparents and great grandparents had. Anyway that's enough of my ramblings for tonight on marriage. Catch you later

Video Review

Video : https://youtu.be/wHNMCfhiIOw

Autism usually starts showing around age 2. It’s different in everyone though. Depending on where you are on the spectrum depends on the type of life you will have. I can understand what they’re saying. It’s sad that some people don’t have the right support system. I guess there is still a lot of stigma attached to autism. I struggled growing up with autism. As an adult I do so much better. I live a normal - ish life. I have my routines. I’m married. I’m a student. And I’m going to be a mother. I don’t think I could achieve this if I hadn’t of had my coping mechanisms and my husbands encouragement. 

The only problem I have is that they’re so negative about autism in general. I don’t agree with that. I get that they couldn’t cope but they went around the situation the wrong way. It makes me a little bit angry. They need to start with being positive. Positivity rubs off. My baby brother has a worse form of autism than me. He’s 6 years old and he responds so well to positivity. As the elder sibling I love encouraging him and letting him know when he’s done well. My mum makes sure that she sends me what progress he’s made. He’s doing so well. 

I’m not only proud of myself for how far I’ve come but I’m also so proud of my brother. He’s still got a long way to go but I know I can help guide him. My husband and my brother get on so well. I think that’s helped him because he can see a visual of how to be with both females and males. 

I think that these boys in the clip are quite high up on the spectrum. Unfortunately there is a side to autism where others have it “worse” but the parents need to learn better techniques to learn to cope. It’s not all one sided. It’s about team work and figuring out what works. The negativity from the parents is abit gross. It’s not about forgiving. The son has a condition. These parents need training big time 

Dealing With Situations

People deal with things differently in this life. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you are we all go through good times and bad times. What defines us as individuals is how we deal with situations. Sometimes dealing with a bad situation can be the hardest thing to do. A lot of the times it’s not about the situation but about the people that have done it. When someone accuses you of something or has hurt you in some way accepting it and dealing with it appropriately is the hardest. Regardless of what it is the hurt can be unbearable. It can be worse if the person is close to you. There actions are not your problem - it’s there’s. As long as you know your truth that’s all that matters. The truth always reveals itself. The only persons who’s actions your responsible for is yours. Nobody can fault you for that. As long as you tell the truth and keep your cool nobody can fault you. 

Schools

Recently there have been more and more news reports of students packed lunches being sent home because teachers have deemed they’re packed lunch’s not healthy enough. This is appalling. Teachers have no right to dictate what a student can and can not eat. That should be up for the discretion of the parents. I feel that it steps over the line when a teacher starts interfering with what goes into the children. After showing my husband a news article on offending topic we have a debate. Pregnant with our first child we have found that we have some strong views on parenting which some may controversial. Back to the topic at hand. Whilst debating we both came to the conclusion that a small cookie and the odd packet of crisps does not make the lunch unhealthy. What is unhealthy is trying to force a child under the age of 11 to think about nutrition. Excuse me we all know about how the food situation is going. If schools are that concerned they should talk to the parents and NOT THE STUDENTS. An 11 year old doesn’t want to listen what’s good for there health. As long as it’s tasty and fills them up that’s all most people below aged 11 care about. I can tell you that under the age of 11 I didn’t care what was nutritional good for me. All I wanted was for it to taste good and be done with it. Schools are meant to teach. They need to stick to the texts books and not nosy through the children’s lunchboxes. When our unborn child reaches schooling age I’ll home school then if they’re perfectly healthy lunch gets sent home because it’s apparently not healthy enough. Absolutely disgusting